be fun

HOW TO BE SOMEONE INTERESTING


1. Smile. No, this doesn’t come as a shock, but studies do show that smiling a lot  during a conversation has a direct impact on how friendly you’re perceived to be.

2. Be easily impressed, entertained, and interested. Most people get more pleasure from wowing you with their humor and insight than from being wowed by your humor and insight.

3. Have a friendly, open, engaged demeanor. Lean toward people, nod, say “Uh-huh,” and turn your body to face the other person’s body. Don’t turn your body away, cross your arms, answer in monosyllables, or scan the room (or look at your Blackberry or iPhone! I’ve seen this happen!) as the other person talks.

4. Remember trait transfer. In trait transfer, whatever you say about other people influences how people see you. If you describe a coworker as brilliant and charismatic, your acquaintance will tend to associate you with those qualities. Conversely, if you describe a coworker as arrogant and obnoxious, those traits will stick to you. So watch what you say.

5. Laugh. Showing vulnerability and a sense of humor make you more likable and approachable. However, don’t push this self-deprecation too far—keep it light. You’ll make others uncomfortable if you run yourself down too much.

6. Radiate energy and good humor. Because of the phenomenon of “emotional contagion,” people catch the emotions of other people, and they prefer to catch an upbeat, energetic mood. Even if you pride yourself on your cynicism, biting humor, or general edginess, these qualities can be conveyed with warmth.